Life After Shows. Kris Aquino should take up Love, not Law
MANILA: Have you heard? Kris Aquino, celebrated & controversial actress & TV host and complicated sister of Philippine President Benigno "Noynoy" Cojuangco Aquino III, she has quit all her shows and is in Europe right now taking a 2-week vacation with her sons Josh and Bimby, alone together (ANN, 25 March 2012, femalenetwork.com). Doesn't she know when you're lonely, you're lonely anywhere you are?
What's she up to now, nobody knows. Everybody knows the boys have different biological fathers. Josh was born out of wedlock; at the moment, Kris is out of wedlock, as her marriage to James Yap was annulled February of last year. So, she is a single mother also to Bimby, James' son too. Is Kris out of luck? I say there are no bad lucks; there are only bad choices.
The Kris Aquino I love is one of the daughters of idolized, once-Senator and martyred Benigno "Ninoy" Aquino Jr. It was 7-year old Kristina Bernadette Cojuangco Aquino who spoke in rallies in her father's behalf as a candidate in the 1978 parliamentary elections. The father lost the election but the daughter won our hearts. The whole world was so smitten that she appeared on the front page of the New York Times and TIME Magazine (Wikipedia). Good choice.
When Kris grew up, she travelled the highways and byways of love, from one heartthrob to another, from one heartbreak to another. The boy Josh (Joshua) is her son from a relationship with Philip Salvador, who was married at the time. The pretty and popular and good girl gone bad. "Kris Aquino, how could you?!" was what we all said. Well, she could. Not content, she also had an affair with Joey Marquez, known to be a playboy, from whom she got STD and the scare of her life when he pointed a 9mm gun at her, she said. Cut! Next scene. The boy James Carlos "Bimby" Aquino Yap Jr is her son with James Yap, one of the basketball stars in the country, whom she married in 2005 in a civil wedding. The marriage lasted 7 years, until the stars went out of the sky. Bad choice?
The marital woes have lasted up to today. On Saturday, 23 March 2013, a Makati court was reported to have forbidden both parties of Kris Aquino and James Yap from "making further public pronouncements about their ongoing family problem" (Kapuso Online, blogspot.com). Kris had earlier sought a temporary protection order (TPO) against James getting near their son. The TPO was granted. The shut-up order came with James' plea for the issuance of a hold departure order (HDO) against Kris. The HDO was denied.
Cut! Next scene. After talking about her, let me talk to Kris herself, in a monologue:
After all is said and done, Kris, you can escape to Europe and escape from the present, but you cannot escape from your past.
Your journeys of love have got to stop; please stop taking another first step to another journey of another thousand heartaches. You're not only hurting yourself; you're also hurting many other people.
Kris, you said, "I was born to be a mother, not a wife" (Pilar Mateo, 15 January 2013, interaksyon.com). For lack of practice, Kris. Being a mother needs practice, years of practice, and if you are married, being a wife needs years of practice too. If you are a Roman Catholic, just because your husband is not a good husband is not a good reason for not being a good wife.
If you think God is punishing you, think again. You're punishing yourself - and your innocent boys. You were named after St Bernadette, who is known for the apparitions of Our Lady of Lourdes (interaksyon.com). You will be seeing other kinds of apparitions if you don't still your mind and you keep travelling the roads of life without direction.
Kris, did you or did you not drop a veiled threat to James Yap to whom you said, in an argument, "Baka nakalimutan mo, three years pa yung brother ko" (DVM, 22 March 2013, gmanetwork.com)? "Lest you forget, my brother has 3 more years." Kris, everyone knows what you mean, as you have only one brother and he happens to be the Philippine President.
So you want to take up Law (Maridol Ranoa-Bismark, 25 March 2013, ph.news.yahoo.com). Kris, you told your manager Boy Abunda in "The Buzz" on Sunday, "I keep telling Atty (Frank) Chavez that I should have been a lawyer … recently, I realized kung gaano kahalaga ang tamang batas para sa Pilipinas" (I realized how important are the right laws for the Philippines). If you're worried about the right laws, Kris, you don't need to become a lawyer; all you need to do is run for Representative or Senator in the next elections, in 2016, when your brother will run again for President. You will make a pretty strong endorser for his second candidacy. And you will win too.
But, you should take up Love Kris, not Law. You must travel the road of true love now. You were born on a Love Day, on Valentine's Day in 1971; you are only 41; if you live to be 82, you have another 41 years to make up for love.
You think you were stupid to have fallen in love with James Yap? Of course! You cannot fall in love unless you're stupid. Been there, done that! It's not love if you don't fall. But you're really stupid to fall out of love when things don't go the way you want them.
Kris, you don't know what true love is. Here, let me recite to you one of the most loved prose poems in the world. It fits your life like a T. For once in your life, listen!
Kris, if you speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, you are a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if you have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if you have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, you are nothing. If you give away all your possessions, and if you hand over your body so that you may boast, but do not have love, you gain nothing.
Kris, love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Kris, love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When you were a child, you spoke like a child, you thought like a child, you reasoned like a child; when you became an adult, you put an end to childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now you know only in part; then you will know fully, even as you have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
Kris, please read 1 Corinthians 13 in the original and cry. You make us cry.